>It’s all in a name…

>So I’m sat, yesterday morning, in the doctors surgery waiting room. It’s a busy morning and the waiting times are long. Naturally I’m surrounded by the merry (though presumably poorly) folk of Chesterfield; men, women and children. I’m sat there in my camoflage jacket, jeans, boots and vest top (as usual); sat in my usual ‘stance’ so to speak. OK, so I was pretty nervous by virtue of my reasons for being there, but otherwise I was perfectly calm and contented.

During the next 20 minutes these things occur: an elderly man can’t stop looking at me, derogatorily. The look on his face says “what the heck is that supposed to be”. A younger man strides in, cool as a cucumber and sort of grunts/grins/acknowledges me (“wotcher mate”) as I smile at his gait. A younger girl keeps eyeing me up, glancing then blushing. I smile warmly. Bless. Other women either disregard me after a cursory glance, or self consciously look anywhere else possible, not wanting meet my eyes. A child running by stops, looks directly at me questioningly, until their parent calls them away embarrassed.

I’m not obviously male, except perhaps to some. Masculine, definitely yes. However I’m also far less obviously female than in the past, but naturally some still spot me. It wryly amuses me, this dance. I smile, contented to just be me. Some will be cool and some will be arses; that’s on them, only my behaviour is on me, and that’s just swell by me. I trust my own behaviour to be mostly good, despite challenges.

So I’m sat there contemplating (even enjoying) all this and then over the loudspeaker comes “would Mrs (wtf??) K… G… please come to room …”. I cringe, sigh softly and stand up.

I swear, american werewolf in london all over again, the whole place stops, the kids stop squawking as though they feel something, all eyes watch me stand up, either grinning or disdainful, ignorant or pleasant. Either way they look and watch, a little surprised by my (incredibly) girly legal forename, as I walk through past reception. Being me, not being remotely bashful or backwards in coming forwards, I simply laugh out loud, continuing to chuckle as I make my way in to see my lovely doctor.

And she IS lovely, for what am I here to discuss with her but gender stuff. Bless her, she’s superb. As a direct result of that conversation, along with the incident in the waiting room…

~ * ~

From changes that began barely perceptibly way back in 2001 (the first appearance of DK so to speak), my life, self and gender identity has evolved to the point where I am simply no longer remotely comfortable being addressed as Kat or LMG. I hope that those who know me by now understand, and respect the change. I’m not doing this to be awkward, believe me ~chuckle~ …for once I’m trying to finally be comfortable. This is me, finally doing something that’s important for me.

However, for those of you remotely uncomfortable with this:

Yes, formerly and for several years I was known as *leathermgoddess* or *Kat* (that’s online nicknames for you); so yes plain old K will do absolutely fine, if you personally are remotely uncomfortable with calling me DK. For reference, Kay is actually the name I’ve been known as (by friends, family, professionally etc) since age 12 anyway, so it’s easy for me to deal with and fairly gender neutral.

Thanks for your time
~doffs cap~


About DK Green (aka DKLeather)

- 51 year old parent, grandparent & unbelievably great grandparent! - Holistic psychotherapist & counsellor, supervisor, life coach, guide, hypnotherapist, shamanic practitioner, mentor, meditator, motorcycle and horse rider, celebrant and tarot reader. - Happily living a very diverse life filled with family, friends, loves, laughter and so much more. - Polyamorous. Passionate. Trans. Leather.
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9 Responses to >It’s all in a name…

  1. DJ Kirkby says:

    >Cool! This post was really interesting. For what it is worth I think you are very beautiful, in the way any human can be beautiful, regardless of gender.

  2. DK Green says:

    >aw, thank you 🙂 x

  3. SpiralSkies says:

    >I find it all fascinating… I’m amazed by the way you write so gently about it all. It comes across as heartfelt but I can see your smile in it.Fabulous. Very bookmarked. x

  4. DK Green says:

    >wow… thank you Jen x

  5. Olga/Maddie says:

    >I’ve always called you Katya.So would you like me to stop calling you that and now call you K?I have no problem with this. But I just thought I would ask about this to be sure.You are who you are. And I’m so very happy to know that you are both proud of you who you are and are so comfortable in your own skin. *big smile*God bless.Hugs and love you. *HG*Take care and talk to you later. :). Olga/Maddie

  6. DK Green says:

    >wow, thank you Olga. Yes please, it means quite a lot to me 🙂

  7. Olga/Maddie says:

    >You are very welcome, K. *big smile*Hope that you and yours are doing all right, that things are going okay, and that today goes all right for you all.God bless.Hugs and love you. *HG*Take care and talk to you later. Bye Daddy K, :)! Olga/Maddie

  8. aims says:

    >Well K. I for one am not a judger. I would have sat beside you and struck up a conversation – piss on those we stare or judge.And – btw – we almost have the same haircut!I too think you are beautiful – gorgeous in fact. I can see how happy you are with you by what you write and the superb look on your face.I think we all have the right to be we who want to be. Go for it!

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