Thoughts on Life

Breathe deep, be with your body. Pay attention to it, hold it, feel into it, what aches, what hurts, and learn what feels good. Flex and stretch it, roll and sensualise it, touch and love it. Don’t shy away from it, don’t dislike it, don’t pick fault with it; it is you. It is the vessel carrying you through this life, for better or for worse. If you think you like who you are, yet dislike your body, you don’t really love you just yet. Love it for its marks, shapes, colours, age, and its curvy or pointy bits, its extra or lack of bits. Trust it. Hold it and allow it to be held. Have pride it in, it is yours, it gives you life and means you are alive, and it is that which allows you to live and love. Heart, mind, body. Change what you can and need to, accept that which you cannot. As it should be, it already is. Love it anyway.

Walk, dance, and move more. Allow every bone and muscle to feel every movement, move it all, keep it alive, flowing, going. Without health, without the physical ability to do all the things you wish to do, life merely gets tougher. If it is already restricted, do all that you can to allow it movement, flow, life. Love it anyway.

Love your mind. No matter what abilities or skills, or what lack or challenges, it too is how you navigate life, relationships, learning, passing on your knowledge, work and play. Utilise it, refresh it, help those grey cells of your mind thrive and live by always feeding it more. Always allow it time to rest and play too. If your mind is a challenge for you (or others), be that by mental health, neurodiversity, lack of education, intellectual or academic ability, use what you have, learn what you can, let it thrive in environments of exploration and learning. Love it anyway.

Nurture and nourish your heart. Feel every feeling, great and awful. Allow yourself, give yourself permission, you are entitled to all of them. We’re systemically, socially and culturally trained to swallow or repress, ignore or deny them. Don’t do that. Those same feelings will arise time and again until you truly allow yourself to feel them, spend the energy of them, so that they may pass. Roll the taste of them around on your tongue, in your mouth, in your body. Where does that hurt? Where does that enliven or excite? Let the tears flow, let the laughter ring out loudly, let freedom and truth guide your emotions so that you are, wholly you, heart open and honest, deep and shallow, let all of the truth of your feelings be alive. If your heart is weary or sore, forgive it, it’s all we really have to guide us through life and learn the heart lessons from. Love it anyway.

Seek adventure and experience, suck the very marrow from the bone[1] of this thing we call life. No regrets, only experiences and memories, both wonderful and awful. Travel, meet new people, seek out lives other than your own to learn from, other cultures, races, languages. Do all the things you wanted to do as a child in life, whatever those things may once have been. Learn to live again, and to drink deeply from this life we are given. If you have restrictions or limitations; do what you can, when you can, how you can. Live life as much as you can so that the only things you ever have to regret are the things you haven’t done, not the things you have. Good times and bad, love life’s experiences anyway.

Make connections. Don’t be an island, except from time to time as is useful to you, to go within and love oneself, to breathe and be a human being, rather than a human doing* (we’ll talk more of this). Meet people, make new friends, talk to passing acquaintances and learn about them, we can all learn so much from others. Love freely and openly, even knowing sometimes that your love may not be returned, and appreciate those who love you, even when you cannot in return. You will not be liked by everyone, and you will not like everyone, that is a simple fact of life; we are all different people with differing beliefs, values, opinions; it matters not. Interacting with others is what matters, the connections, the intimacy, the web of beings we share our lives and this planet with. Love and connect anyway.

Explore spirituality, openly and freely. Make your own choices, whatever you choose to believe, it is your choice, nobody else’s. Whether you choose a religion, a spirituality, or prefer currently proven facts, science, or indeed both (also a choice). Whether you choose to disbelieve in any form spirituality and simply choose another way for your own moral compass, or find in nature itself your source of solace, that too is your choice; it matters not. What matters is that it is indeed your own choice entirely, and that as such you respect anyone else’s right to choose for themselves, and their own choices. Explore for yourself anyway.

Nurture and nourish one another. Do not harm, diminish or belittle each other. Thrive together, do not divide and wither apart. ‘Everyone is entitled to their own opinion’ is one truth, yet it is often misused. So do take time to consider; and if your opinion harms another, either rethink it, or keep it to yourself. Diversity and difference is what makes us human, do more to welcome, be tolerant and inquiring instead, make allowances and have understanding; and do less harm because of it. Love one another anyway.

Be kind. So much of life and the world would be more beautiful, if we were all simply kinder to each other. Be thoughtful, considerate and acknowledging of one another. Witness each other in all our differences, and be respectful of other beings also going about the business of living their lives. Be compassionate to those less fortunate than yourself. Be passionate in elevating others, by which actions in turn you too shall be elevated. Be loving, as when someone appears to deserve it the least, is probably when they need it the most[2].

Speak less, listen more.

Think less upon how much you know, and more upon how much more there is to learn.

All we have is time, spend it wisely.

See me, hear me, feel me[3]. So much deep internal pain is caused and created by not being seen, heard or felt by others. Not only should you endeavour to see, hear and feel others for them, but it’s vital that you see, hear and feel you, for yourself. Look in the mirror and really learn to appreciate you, for none can do that better for you than yourself, nobody can do that for you. Bear witness to others, and to yourself. Feel seen, heard and felt first, last and always, by yourself. Have gratitude for those in your life who do see, hear and feel you. For all your growth, foibles and mistakes, habits, strengths and weaknesses; see, hear and feel you anyway.

There is so much in our lives and in the wider world that can feel hard, horrid or difficult sometimes. Remember always that life is also a blessing and filled with so much more beauty to find, too. We can always find it, if we take a breath and look around, no matter how difficult the path. Walk in beauty anyway.

Love DK Green, 13th January 2021

[1] First heard spoken by Barbara Carrellas

[2] First heard spoken by Tracie Wayling (old Swedish proverb)

[3] Song lyric from Tommy, The Musical

About DK Green (aka DKLeather)

- 54 year old parent, grandparent and unbelievably great grandparent! - Holistic psychotherapist and counsellor, supervisor, speaker, author, life coach, guide, hypnotherapist, shamanic practitioner, mentor, meditator, motorcycle and horse rider, celebrant and tarot reader. - Happily living a very diverse life filled with family, friends, loves, laughter and so much more. - Polyamorous. Passionate. Trans. Leather.
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